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Is the IPhone Destroying Today’s Kids?

By in Relationships

Fall 2017

Dr. Jean Twenge, PHD is a researcher and author on generational differences.  She has been studying the impact of technology and culture on children for 25 years.  Dr. Twenge has dubbed the most recent generation (those born between 1995–2012) as “iGen.”   They are the first generation to spend their entire adolescence in the age of the smartphone.  

This newest generation of children and adolescents, look and act much differently than any other generation before them. 

In 2012, researchers noticed abrupt shifts in teen behaviors and emotional states. What happened in 2012?   It was the defining moment in American history when the percentage of Americans who owned a smartphone became 50%+.

Smartphones have shifted every aspect of teenagers’ lives – rates of teen depression and suicide have skyrocketed since 2012. Kids state they feel left-out and lonely.  

Children are not growing up.  18-year-olds act like 15-year-olds and 15-year-olds act like 13-year-olds. Childhood stretches well into high school.  Children fear independence.

Psychologist Jean M. Twenge says children are on the brink of a mental health crisis; more depressed, more fearful and don’t know how to talk about their feelings

How to Reclaim your Children & Family

Start with Fun:  It can be more fun to add new activities into your children’s lives than limiting or taking away their technology. Often kids view their screens as the most pleasurable activity in their life so allow them to brainstorm activities they want to do; ice skating, paint ball, bowling, zoos, aquariums, craft class, bounce house, parks, etc.

Set Limits on Technology: The American Academy of Pediatrics guidelines are 1-2 hours per day for children. Limit all technology that have screens; computers, laptops, handheld devices, iPods, TV sets, console video games, online gaming, streaming videos, general reading or surfing, and social networking. Discuss the new rules in a positive way at a family meeting.

Cut Back on your Use of Technology:  Limit your online distractions when your kids are home. Set a time that everybody puts electronics away, including mom and dad.  Drop everything that you are doing when your kids get home from school to talk to them. Limit your own usage and model for them that life is better without a lot of electronics.

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Can You Unplug From Work?

By in Work Issues

October 2016

Studies show that more workers are taking work home.  Those that have Smartphones, spend an average of 5 hours each week on work-related emails during their personal time.

What’s even more surprising is the increasing trend to take less vacation time or to work while on vacation.  Two out of every 5 workers in the U.S. did not take a single day of vacation and about half of the U.S. workers did not use all of their vacation time.

These trends have been increasing steadily over the past 20 years.  Why?

Some of the trends are being fed by technology.  There is now a blur between “work time” and “free time”.  There is an expectation that people should be plugged into work because the technology is there to support that notion.

These trends are also fueled by fear.  One out of 4 workers have concerns that corporate restructuring or downsizing will negatively impact them in the next 5 years.  Therefore, these fears fuel the behavior of staying connected: “I will stay relevant, valuable and important in the organization by answering emails on the weekend.”

The over-connection and inability to unplug translates to stress, anxiety, resentment and guilt.  Constantly plugging into work takes away from family time, hobbies, relaxation and social enjoyment.

7 Tips to Unplug

  • Talk to co-workers face-face.  While at work, walk over to colleagues offices and speak to them the old fashioned way…. face-to-face.  Not only will you get more accomplished in your time – you will build more connection through the personal contact.  Having personal connections in the workplace makes work more fulfilling.
  • Take breaks from alerts.  You become one of Pavlov’s dogs when you immediately check your phone/text with every vibrate or ding.   Turn off notifications (including vibrate) on your desktop, laptop, tablet, and smartphone for your texts, emails and social media.
  • Implement an at-home policy.  Have a basket near the front door for visitors and guests to deposit their devices.  When it’s time for socializing and connection in your home – it’s time to disconnect from “other people”.
  • Set expectations while you’re away. Review with co-workers and your boss what needs to be done before you leave the office for a long weekend or vacation.  Remind those around you of your schedule and your inaccessibility during that time.  People will get used to the boundaries – they just need to know what they are.
  • Set the tone via your email auto-reply.  State your return date to the office and who can be contacted in the meantime.  Do not say that you’ll be checking email.
  • Name a “go-to”.   Ask a co-worker to cover for you if there are problems or questions while you are gone.  This will increase your ability to unplug.  Do the same for that person – both of you will have more enjoyable time away from the office.
  • Don’t bring it home.   I admit – this is hard! When you head out of work, make a point of turning off any work-related phones or emails. Instead, take time for yourself, friends and family.

Almost everything will work again
if you unplug it for a few minutes,
including you.
~~ Anne Lamott

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