MY HEART BEATS WITH COMPASSION WHEN I HELP OTHERS.
Somehow, as a child, I picked up the message that if I just try really hard – I could accomplish anything I wanted. Even though it was a good message – it was incomplete. I thought I had to go through life’s most stressful times – by myself – not letting anyone know that I was struggling and certainly not asking for help.
I remember particularly stressful times and feeling very alone in my journey:
- When I was in school for my MBA and was close to flunking my Advanced Accounting class.
- When I worked in the corporate world and knew I had to work 60+ hour weeks if I wanted to keep my job.
- When I realized that a family member had a problem with alcohol and I could do little to help.
I white-knuckled it. It wasn’t easy or comfortable or enjoyable.
Then came the fateful day when I was knocked to my knees after reading a text message. It shattered my marriage. I felt fear – sadness – confusion – anger – and indecision.
That was an amazing turning point for me even though it felt pretty far from amazing at the time. I turned to a counselor. Her name was Annette. I didn’t realize the impact that Annette would have in my life and how much she’d be able to help.
The waves of life continued to hit – divorce, annulment, on-line dating, death of a parent, re-marriage to a wonderful man, selling my house, moving across the country, pondering my purpose in life and rebuilding from scratch.
But, somehow the waves felt less crushing. Decisions were from a place of calm – rather than calamity. Annette, my counselor, was on the journey with me and I knew exactly where to turn when I needed help.
Today, the heart of my work is to help you in the same way I was helped – at the time when you need it most.
This quote from Mother Teresa is a source of inspiration of how I embrace my work with a mix of curiousity, warmth and passion:
“Before you speak, it is necessary for you to listen, for God speaks in the silence of the heart. Speak tenderly to them.
Let there be kindness in your face, in your eyes, in your smile, in the warmth of your greeting. Always have a cheerful smile.
Don’t only give your care, but give your heart as well.”
If you need compassion, understanding and help — either as an individual or a couple — call me at 716.471.6060. Or schedule an appointment and I’ll call you back in 24-48 hours.
Peace be with you,
P.S. For those interested in credentials — I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in the state of New York. My License # is 005486. I have a Masters in Business Administration (MBA) and a Masters in Counseling Psychology (MA). I am credentialed as a Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapist through The Center for Self Leadership and a Board Certified Coach (BCC) through the Center for Credentialing & Education.